Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Fighting Children and Youth Services Handbook

Sharing this information as it may help you if you are caught in the family court battle.
Some good information and answers to questions many have when facing the unfriendly corruption of this agency.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Spring Township Couples Battle with Berks CYS


Co-Parenting with a Pshchpath is a Special Kind of HELL

Had to share this article as it fits my case to a tee and moany of you I am sure.

The Parent Without a Conscience

The following "qualities" of a typical psychopathic parent come from my own experience and from reading many of your posts (survivors who also have to expose their children to a psychopath) here on the forum.

They know their own tricks and how to play them on the kids. 
In other words if he love-bombed you, he can do it to your children, and then suddenly discard them as well. The extra bonus for a psychopathic-parent is that he can repeat this for a very long time and the child has no way of going NC, if the child gets as far as understanding what is going on then hard work has been done (mostly by the caring parent sometimes with the help of a good therapist).

They have a power-over relationship with the child.
In other words whereas in a normal relationship people influence each other, with a psychopathic-parent he exercises his power over his children and feels entitled to this - plus the psychopath has 'a legal right' to this, the law does not distinguish between types of relationships.

They will never co-parent with you, they will counter-parent.
In other words, he will make it his top priority to undo your parenting efforts with the children and make you fail as a parent. Not only is this a horribly tough battle for the caring parent (and a very long one), it is a nice 'hobby' for the psychopathic-parent, it is thrilling to see how (sometimes with very little effort) he can undo your hard work and make you suffer.

They will use the children as weapons regardless of the consequences for them.
Children are "remote controls" for a psychopathic-parent, he can use these at will to set off some drama for you and them, he can push the button and enjoy the show. Any clever psychopath will know his children (or you) well enough to know which buttons to push. Here you can make it more difficult for him if - in time (a long time) - he is excluded from the kids' activities as much as possible and gets more clueless about what they like and how their life with you is.

They do not love their children, but will demand love in return.
And even when the children do adore their psychopathic-dad it will still not be enough, it never is. It will not be enough to appease him, not enough to trust the children and not enough to be there for them. On the other hand, any lack of complete adoration from the children will give him the 'right' to retaliate against you.

They will use their children at will to prove themselves to a new partner.
But sadly this also means that after totally discarding his own children and treating them as strangers, the psychopath will then be able to 'prove' to his new partner what an evil person you are and put the OW in a triangle with you that you never wanted. You get her anger (as do the children at times) and he gets her devotion and overflowing pity. Very rarely (not, in my experience) does he actually show himself to be proud of his children even though he sees himself as the best ever dad.

They will see custody as a battle they should 'win', never as a serious responsibility.
This makes these horrible custody battles so bitter because he does not really have anything to lose, if he gets custody he can still have OW take care of the children or even drop them on you (after winning of course) because he knows you care and will care for them when he does not.

They will stick to their right of being in touch with you, using the children as an excuse.
This means that he gets this power of going totally NC with you at times when you really need him for important decisions in the lives of the kids, and then he will bother you day and night if he feels like it (or feels that you might be weak for whatever reason) using the children and his right to be their father when it is convenient to him.

To say it with a quote (from Indie Mom whose posts mean a lot to me):

Co-parenting with a psychopath is a special kind of hell.

This article was originally published in forum thread: The Parent Without a Conscience started by mummy to my son View original post

Friday, January 3, 2014

Going Pro Bono or Just Need Self Help

Here is a webisite that may help you go it alone.

Courtroom.jpg (450×360) https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/courts/courts.pdf information http://fightcps.com/2011/05/09/sample-statement-of-objections-and-corrections-to-the-report-of-the-social-worker/ Filing a complaint yourself against info social worker got wrong.

Mother Hiding Because of Family Court Decision and Corruption (Lebanon, PA)

This is a video of a local mother from Lebanon , PA who was forced to hide out to save her son from the abuse of her pedofile ex husband that CYS and the courts forced visitation with.  Share and if you can help her please contact her thru facebook.  Pamela Kilmer.

Thursday, January 2, 2014

A Child being ABUSED by Father and Law Enforcement

A much see to grasp just one of mant occurances daily right here in the great USA,  It needs to STOP!
Father was arrested 3 times for domestic abuse this one being for attepted strangulation.
Vickie Correll-Rick's photo.  Vickie Correll-Rick's photo.
These pictures were taken of the boy and one of the reasons mother said she left Florida with her children and moved to Johnstown, PA.  She has family and support here.
This is a debate https://www.facebook.com/LegallyKidnapped/posts/10203097533503329?comment_id=8115824&offset=0&total_comments=270&notif_t=feed_comment_reply  that I started by forcing this video to go viral.  Lot's of opinions and insight.  I am posting it because I do believe there was a better way to handle this whole situation by #1 using a third party (neighbors and or lawyers) to handle the drop off.  #2 preparation for the visit should have started days before by talking about it, packing for it, and being matter of fact about it.  The boys is eight and may have been beaten and witnessed a lot of distress and violence between his parents.  Of course he is not going to want to leave mom.  But because family courts intrude on our lives when we can't figure it out on our own we have to obey court orders.  Like em or not.  I believe this situation unfolded faster and in a way that nobody present was expecting.  Dad had no right to restrain or hit the child nor did the police need to aid and participate in that abuse.  The child should have been left to go and be comforted by mom and while talking calmly involved the father in a comforting way.  Most children of this age will settle down and if both parents seem OK with the situation they will do what is expected of them.  In a perfect world in which in which we do not live.  Many divorce/custody cases get heated and very ugly.  In the moment it is so hard to act responsibly but when children are in the mix and witnessing your behavior you have to act in their best interest first.  At no time did the mother hit her child.  She was being held back from comforting him and she made it very clear that it was being recorded and that she was going to share the information.  I am appalled that law enforcement officers, I counted 3, stood by and actually participated in the abuse of this child (children).  My guess is they were friends of the fathers and were prepared to be prejudice.  My objection in this whole thing was and is the safety of the children.  They are helpless and the trauma and lifetime scars inflicted on innocent children are something I will never stop fighting for and talking about.  It is a mission as a mother and a foster mother I take seriously.  I will be a part of the solution until I am no longer breathing.